There's no place like home....or is there?

I really, really wanted to send this to Witch yesterday but I 'journaled' it out and let it go, which I'm super proud of, the drama of the day was that Wizard told her that he and I wouldn't be going to the birthday party she's having for Munchkin on 8/4 (his bday is 7/29, our week) and she threw a fit saying that it was my fault and he again was putting me before the kids and
that I needed to 'let it go'. There's other background needed to 'get' the email but I don't feel like typing it all out, LOL

I have to stick up for myself and the family that Wizard and I are trying to build. You're upset that Wizard isn't going to be at your party for Munchkin and while I understand wanting a father to be with his son on his birthday, I do not understand why you're so angry that he (Wizard) won't be there for the party you're having with YOUR friends and family and why you aren't thankful that he is spending part or all of Munchkin's actual birthday with him. I personally wouldn't be going even if Wizard were going and no, I'm not going to 'get over it'. I don't and won't put myself in a position that makes me uncomfortable for the sake of painting the picture perfect family....I could careless what people think. You constantly blame me for Wizards's decisions, I do not make his decisions for him, he makes them of his own free will as I'm sure you
know.

You don't like me, I get that but let it go as you said you have, I've tried 'playing nice', instead of 'being over it' you say things like 'you're putting her in front of your kids' (which you're WRONG about and if you'd look outside yourself for a minute you might see that) or 'you won't be
going to that game now, will you' (another selfish statement, and truthfully you're not hurting us, we just won't go, not a big deal) and my favorite 'girls your dad said you can't go to Cedar Point'; even though its you're doing, the best part is you don't care that you're painting an 'ugly'
picture of their father, you just care that you're pushing his buttons, and putting your anger in front of your kids....you want to be mean and selfish so why should we be nice and let you take them on OUR DAY....the ONLY reason we/he would let you take them to Cedar Point is because the KIDS HAPPINESS COMES FIRST...but you already knew that and are counting on that....aren't you...

Lets be real here, we're adults so lets behave like adults and COMPROMISE. If we can't compromise and co-exist positively then how can we expect our children to co-exist with people they don't like or learn to respect each other/others and compromise? Our actions are teaching them how to behave, our actions are molding who they will become. I for one want TinMan to be a better person than I am....I want more for him than I do myself, I'm sure you can relate....think about that when you're angry and you're spouting things off in front of the kids about their father, the man they love and admire, the man that is their protector and provider; you're mad at him take it out him but don't use the children to do it because that IS putting yourself before your children; Wizard doesn't do that to you or about you, he and I both know its in their best interest to see you in the best light, you're their mother, their security blanket, the one they need and trust.

You consistently believe that we (Wizard and I) are out to 'get' you or not include you in the parenting of your children and that is not true, I think you and Wizard are the most important people in your children's lives and when you TWO can get over your differences and stop trying to have the 'upper hand' with each other you'll be better parents. BOTH of you. The childcare
issue is one of the more recent issues I can think of, I'm not trying to decide anything for your kids, I will assist in the decision as my child will be present and I care about your children but the final say will come from you and Wizard since your kids will need more supervision than mine; if you want a specific type of babysitter/nanny then make a list of the type of person and qualifications you want and share it with us but don't accuse us of trying to do something without you, its getting old.

I will again say that if you have something to say about me, my life or my son to TALK TO ME not Wizard, you know he's going to tell me anyway. I'm tired of the she said BS, another thing that's getting old. You believe that I was talking about you this weekend at the game....when in reality I was pointing out Munchkin cheering....I'm tired of the anger....its OVER let it go,
move on, be happy.... that's all we're trying to do....and in fact despite all the BS that goes on we are happy, nothing you can do or say is going to change that.....