Long long story but Lion pulled something dramatic about a dream and WE all sat her down and had a 'talk'
From: Dorothy
Sent: Monday, February 18, 2008 4:37 PM
To: Witch
Subject: RE: Last night
Thank you and I understand busy, see you this evening!
From: Witch
Sent: Monday, February 18, 2008 4:33 PM
To: Dorothy
Subject: RE: Last night
Dorothy,
Thank you for sending this note. I apologize for not responding sooner, we have been a little crazy around here. I do appreciate your sentiments and hope we can continue to work towards the best for the children. That is all I have ever wanted. Thank you for being our partner in helping Lion in her time of need...and for all you do everyday to support my kids in there daily lives. Have a safe and fun trip. See you on the return!
From: Dorothy
Sent: Friday, February 15, 2008 9:33 AM
To: Witch
Subject: Last night
Hi Witch
I wanted to take a second and let you know that I felt really good about the three of us sitting down with Lion last night and I hope that it really helped her, I've been worried. I also wanted to tell you that I think through communication between you and I or you, Wizard and I that we can hopefully overcome some of the walls that we've built. Talking last night reminded me that we (you, Wizard and I) are not the important people in our situation, our children are and I want nothing more than to show them that we can function as a unit rather than as two units. I can honestly say that in the last few months I've allowed walls to built and have somewhat closed my mind but last night I saw what a difference it makes for our children when we are open minded, and do our best to function together. Do I think we'll be best friends and always agree, no but I do think that talking things through and seeing both sides will help us give the children our best. I hope you understand what I'm trying to say and do, this email is genuine and I can't say that I'll never build walls again but I can say I will do my best not to and do my best to communicate openly with you and Wizard.
Dorothy
Friday, February 15, 2008
Monday, February 4, 2008
Witts End
I'm sort of at my wits end...AGAIN, I'm tired of TinMan always being the bad guy in Wizards's eyes....its getting to a point that I think Wizard is like the typical step father with all his glares and constant ridicule....but he doesn't ridicule the child...he knows I'd never put up with that, he
ridicules the child to me, he calls it venting. When he gets mad at TinMan for not trying in school he calls him lazy, when he gets mad because TinMan didn't follow through or pay attention he calls him lazy or says he just doesn't get it and he never will, he thinks that constant punishment is the way to go, I think that giving him something to aim for like a weekend at his grandma's is the way to go and let me tell you its already working, his planner looks awesome, he has things written in it like I requested, he's studying for a quiz right now and doesn't even realize he's studying. Wizard seems to believe that TinMan's room is the best place for him to study...no, its fucking loud and FREEZING cold...its colder than it needs to be because Wizard was too fucking cheap to dry wall the other cement walls in...but I digress.
I'm pretty damn bitter that I'm helping pay of 6 figures in debt that I had no hand in creating, Wizard's all pissed off because my debt is gone, yes its gone because of two of his bonuses but it still would've been gone in april without them so I just don't get it, we as families are becoming more and more segregated. I admit that at the beginning of the school year I thought Wizard was handling TinMan better than I but I feel that I'm the one to take over from here; and now all I hear from him is 'we'll see' and its like he wants the child to fail....which hurts me, he says he wants him to suceede so badly but I don't know, just a feeling and just the way he talks.....
There was an inicident with Witch ...well there was and wasn't...I guess she's holding Emily (thomas and friends train) over Munchkin's head to get him to use the potty, Glenda has a feeling that Munchkin is holding his poop until Witch gets home so that he can poop in the potty and get emily...how fucking sick is this woman?! On another note she wants to take him to see the real
Thomas in May...funny thing is that's what I wanted to do, I really wanted to share that experience with him and the rest of the kids ....Wizard said, I don't know what to tell you, we don't have the money and we have a softball tournament. I told him to do what he wanted (its our week when she wants to take him) and that what he and Witch did with their children was none of my business, that i had no idea why he called to ask me what was going on, he had the calendar too and could've checked AND that he knew it would upset me and he had already made up his mind so why fucking call? I told him that we never do anythign fun with the kids and I'm not talking about spending money, I'm just talking about doing something fun, period...well that
doesn't happen in this house, if we're not on a field we're not doing anything....total BS and I'm completely over it.
Then there's the fact that he acts like he's 17, like he doesn't have a clue how to be a man and I'm beyond tired of that shit. Even after reading my chat with Cougar about him being childish and that i felt like he wanted someone to take care of him more than he wanted a parnter ....he was doing really well being the same guy I dated for almost 2 years and then like a switch he's back to this immature 17 year old and it totally repulses me, I mean I want a man, not a boy....how do you say that to somone? It has nothing to do with physical appearance he's still as amazingly gorgeous as ever physically but its like he wants me to mother him in one way and then be
his lover in another and I just can't do that....being his mother is such a turn off and then I have to deal with the whining and the funky ass voices he uses ugh...not during sex or anything like that but just throughout the course of a day and he didn't do that before...its got to change.
ridicules the child to me, he calls it venting. When he gets mad at TinMan for not trying in school he calls him lazy, when he gets mad because TinMan didn't follow through or pay attention he calls him lazy or says he just doesn't get it and he never will, he thinks that constant punishment is the way to go, I think that giving him something to aim for like a weekend at his grandma's is the way to go and let me tell you its already working, his planner looks awesome, he has things written in it like I requested, he's studying for a quiz right now and doesn't even realize he's studying. Wizard seems to believe that TinMan's room is the best place for him to study...no, its fucking loud and FREEZING cold...its colder than it needs to be because Wizard was too fucking cheap to dry wall the other cement walls in...but I digress.
I'm pretty damn bitter that I'm helping pay of 6 figures in debt that I had no hand in creating, Wizard's all pissed off because my debt is gone, yes its gone because of two of his bonuses but it still would've been gone in april without them so I just don't get it, we as families are becoming more and more segregated. I admit that at the beginning of the school year I thought Wizard was handling TinMan better than I but I feel that I'm the one to take over from here; and now all I hear from him is 'we'll see' and its like he wants the child to fail....which hurts me, he says he wants him to suceede so badly but I don't know, just a feeling and just the way he talks.....
There was an inicident with Witch ...well there was and wasn't...I guess she's holding Emily (thomas and friends train) over Munchkin's head to get him to use the potty, Glenda has a feeling that Munchkin is holding his poop until Witch gets home so that he can poop in the potty and get emily...how fucking sick is this woman?! On another note she wants to take him to see the real
Thomas in May...funny thing is that's what I wanted to do, I really wanted to share that experience with him and the rest of the kids ....Wizard said, I don't know what to tell you, we don't have the money and we have a softball tournament. I told him to do what he wanted (its our week when she wants to take him) and that what he and Witch did with their children was none of my business, that i had no idea why he called to ask me what was going on, he had the calendar too and could've checked AND that he knew it would upset me and he had already made up his mind so why fucking call? I told him that we never do anythign fun with the kids and I'm not talking about spending money, I'm just talking about doing something fun, period...well that
doesn't happen in this house, if we're not on a field we're not doing anything....total BS and I'm completely over it.
Then there's the fact that he acts like he's 17, like he doesn't have a clue how to be a man and I'm beyond tired of that shit. Even after reading my chat with Cougar about him being childish and that i felt like he wanted someone to take care of him more than he wanted a parnter ....he was doing really well being the same guy I dated for almost 2 years and then like a switch he's back to this immature 17 year old and it totally repulses me, I mean I want a man, not a boy....how do you say that to somone? It has nothing to do with physical appearance he's still as amazingly gorgeous as ever physically but its like he wants me to mother him in one way and then be
his lover in another and I just can't do that....being his mother is such a turn off and then I have to deal with the whining and the funky ass voices he uses ugh...not during sex or anything like that but just throughout the course of a day and he didn't do that before...its got to change.
Sunday, February 3, 2008
Super Bowl Sunday
WOOO HOO for the NY Giants!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it couldn't have happened to a better team or a better family!
Now for the fun...I've not been really great at this whole journaling thing, I started the year strong and boom stopped and as soon as I stopped journaling my thoughts,venting my feelings and appreciting my blessings I have been an emotional mess, only on the inside, the outside still looks the same...very sad though that I've been struggling and knew all along the only thing that i needed to do was pick up my laptop and take 20 mins or so to 'get it all out', let it go, give to God/the universe.
The challenges that I'm having are challenges that every other parent and step parent have but some are different. My mom for example, i wrote a long letter and email attaching TinMan's latest report card and the consequences for said report card and I must've really hit home because she brought him home on time last night, even was nice enough to let me know they were on their way home. I feel blessed that she did that...yes, she should but I really appreciate her doing what I asked, it shows TinMan that she respects me, my word and what I'm trying to do for him and he in turn will respect me a little more. I never thought that TinMan adn I had a respect problem but I'm realizing that we do and I'm changing that. He has a lying problem that I'm hoping is just normal teen stuff and that here shortly...like now LOL he'll realize that telling us the truth about some things (nothing like drugs or sex or any of the bad stuff) that he's freeing himself from the burden or that he'll realize that tellling us the truth isn't really that bad. Can someone tell me if this whole parenting thing gets easier?!
I feel like i'm drowning and that I'm 'fighting' and uphill battle....my other challenge is Witch....she is just weird to me. If I try to explain the story that Wizard told me I'll screw it up but the gist is this she has manipulated Munchkin so badly that he's holding his poop and therefore constipating himself so that he can try and go poop in the potty so he can get a Thomas and Friends train called Emily; Glenda figured this out because he's been having issues pooping and he's NEVER had any issues and his diet hasn't changed and she said that she realized what was happening on Friday because when Witch got home he took off his pants and his diaper and ran to the bathroom and said I get Emily mommy....and Glenda said he had pooped himself badly that day...guess he couldn't hold any longer. HE even told me tonight that he had to go potty and if he did he would get Emily....mommmy said. how sick is that? what kind of person does that? We haven't even begun to potty train, he's 2 1/2 and honestly he's not ready, he's getting there but he's not ready; but Wizard says that Witch wants Munchkin to use the potty before his cousin that is also 2 1/2 so that she wins...some sort of sick game her and his sister in law have going on and have had going on for the last 10 + years. I just feel bad for Munchkin, Witch isn't willing to try any of the 'normal' stuff, her words were 'I think he's going to need more motivation'...I'm wondering how she could possibly know when we haven't tried anything?! I'm frustrated about this...and honestly I cried, I felt so bad for Munchkin, he's two and he just not ready. I just don't understand and what I have to remember is that I can not control her...just my reaction to her...ugh.
Now for the fun...I've not been really great at this whole journaling thing, I started the year strong and boom stopped and as soon as I stopped journaling my thoughts,venting my feelings and appreciting my blessings I have been an emotional mess, only on the inside, the outside still looks the same...very sad though that I've been struggling and knew all along the only thing that i needed to do was pick up my laptop and take 20 mins or so to 'get it all out', let it go, give to God/the universe.
The challenges that I'm having are challenges that every other parent and step parent have but some are different. My mom for example, i wrote a long letter and email attaching TinMan's latest report card and the consequences for said report card and I must've really hit home because she brought him home on time last night, even was nice enough to let me know they were on their way home. I feel blessed that she did that...yes, she should but I really appreciate her doing what I asked, it shows TinMan that she respects me, my word and what I'm trying to do for him and he in turn will respect me a little more. I never thought that TinMan adn I had a respect problem but I'm realizing that we do and I'm changing that. He has a lying problem that I'm hoping is just normal teen stuff and that here shortly...like now LOL he'll realize that telling us the truth about some things (nothing like drugs or sex or any of the bad stuff) that he's freeing himself from the burden or that he'll realize that tellling us the truth isn't really that bad. Can someone tell me if this whole parenting thing gets easier?!
I feel like i'm drowning and that I'm 'fighting' and uphill battle....my other challenge is Witch....she is just weird to me. If I try to explain the story that Wizard told me I'll screw it up but the gist is this she has manipulated Munchkin so badly that he's holding his poop and therefore constipating himself so that he can try and go poop in the potty so he can get a Thomas and Friends train called Emily; Glenda figured this out because he's been having issues pooping and he's NEVER had any issues and his diet hasn't changed and she said that she realized what was happening on Friday because when Witch got home he took off his pants and his diaper and ran to the bathroom and said I get Emily mommy....and Glenda said he had pooped himself badly that day...guess he couldn't hold any longer. HE even told me tonight that he had to go potty and if he did he would get Emily....mommmy said. how sick is that? what kind of person does that? We haven't even begun to potty train, he's 2 1/2 and honestly he's not ready, he's getting there but he's not ready; but Wizard says that Witch wants Munchkin to use the potty before his cousin that is also 2 1/2 so that she wins...some sort of sick game her and his sister in law have going on and have had going on for the last 10 + years. I just feel bad for Munchkin, Witch isn't willing to try any of the 'normal' stuff, her words were 'I think he's going to need more motivation'...I'm wondering how she could possibly know when we haven't tried anything?! I'm frustrated about this...and honestly I cried, I felt so bad for Munchkin, he's two and he just not ready. I just don't understand and what I have to remember is that I can not control her...just my reaction to her...ugh.
Monday, January 21, 2008
Crazy stuff
...I promised myself that I'd write daily and I've let myself down but I digress....I have so much to say and so much to get out before I explode or implode.
Women, what makes us think that we always know more than everyone else, more than our moms, friends, grandma's, friends; not sure why but we always think we know more than the 'average bear' and I'm just as guilty as everyone else.....my rant today is about my mother, who in my eyes died yesterday, no condolences please as its my choice that she is dead to me. Background....before Thanksgiving TinMan brought home a less than stellar report card by our (mine and Wizards) standards so given he hasn't made a ton of friends in our area yet we took away the one thing we'd know get to through to him...spending the night with granny (my mom) since then I have broken my own rule SIX times and I'm still being accused by my mother, brother and now my son of keeping him from his family. My son didn't start studying for his exams utnil a week before the tests, that might be ok if he had been working off and on throughout the semester but he hasn't so we have to treat him like he's 10, study with him, force him to do his work and as of last week I finally thought he was getting it, he seemed to be a little more independent about his work, etc I was so proud, so excited and happy for him. He's enjoying Lacrosse and had a blast at the agility class we enrolled him, the LAX coach loves him and has said that he's doing well and developing quickly....so FINALLY we have something that really clicks with him :) So, my rule about going to my moms was that he could go spend the day and come home, no spending the night...you know give him a taste and then let him see that if he continues to work that he'll get the other half which is spend the night. I've had several fights with my mother about this and she just thinks that I'm trying to keep him from her, so not the case in fact this past saturday Wizard got up at 630am and took TinMan to HER drove him an hour to HER so he could spend as much time as possible with HER and she never said thank you....instead she didn't bring him home when she was supposed to on Saturday night, she called at 9pm and asked if he could stay....now, I had a house full of women, I had a jewelry party and I had 20 women in my house and was not about to have the conversation with my mom again especially knowing how upset I get and I can literally lose it...so i said fine, she said he would be home tomorrow (Sunday) evening. Fine, I'm beside myself with anger, and hurt and felt lied to by her and by TiMan. I forgot to mention that my 13 yr old brother called me earlier in the day and asked if TinMan could spend the night, I said no and he asked why and for whatever reason I actually tried to justify it to him...I know, I dont' have to but, I digress....he actually said to me 'so his punishment is keeping him from his family'; then he hung up on me.....he hung up on me! At that point I had people starting to arrive at my home and had to let it go.
Fast forward to last night (Saturday), I called around 4pm to find out if TinMan would be home in time for dinner, my mom said no that she would make him dinner and they would be home after, well....8pm comes and goes, I call ask where she is and she tells me she just got out of the shower. I was like WTF you said he'd be home by 8pm, I went into a rant and a rage that I've never gone into before, I told her that I was sick and tired of her BS that I was tired of her trying to always control me, that I've put up with her BS all my life and I wasn't doing it anymore and she wasn't going to do it to my son....I continued to yell and the last thing I said was F you, you bipolar cunt.....and I hung up. I was so angry, so upset that I had 1. been lied to and 2. she AGAIN did not respect my wishes and is showing my son that its ok....I lost my cool. About 10 mins later I called back, calmly apologized for saying mean things out of anger and went on the tell her that this wasn't about her and I and it wasn't about our relationship that it was and is about TinMan and the person we are molding him to become and that if she lies to me, disrespects my rules then she's showing him that he doesn't have to have respect for me or be truthful with me, I also told her that he needed grow and learn and that I'm trying my best to do that for him and that from the time he was born until this very moment he has been my first priority that he lived with her until high school because its what I felt was best for him, because he deserved better than I could give...if I were truly selfish I would've kept my child with me and he could've expereinced all the boyfriends, partying and me growing up...but that's not fair to him....just like its not fair to him that she's not obeying my rules and that she's not respecting my boundaries...she's being selfish. So after that conversation she said she was bringing him home it was about 9pm, so at 10:15pm I called again to find out where they are....they hadn't left yet, my instinct told me to get in my car and go get my son...I didn't, I was emotionally exhausted and just didn't want a scene and didn't want to deal with her....at 11:30pm I called again asked where they were...she said they weren't coming....I laughed....asked what had changed between my last phone call and now, she said TinMan didn't want to come home. SERIOUSLY, I asked...when the 15 yr old started calling the shots and making the decisions and that as a parent/grandparent we weren't there to be friends, we are there to mold and teach and sometimes that sucks and its not fun and we have to make choices for them that make them sad or mad. she didn't get it so I talked to TinMan, I explained to him that there were conseuquences for his behavior...in my eyes at 15 he should have the character to say 'no, my mom said' but he didn't, instead he saw video games, and playing with friends.....he saw irresponsibility and fun. So he will now be writing a 500 word essay about respect, what it means, how to earn it, how to give it and what it means in a family, he'll be reading 2 hours on weekends and any day he doesn't have school and an hour every weekday....and now he's definitely not going to her house and only because he said something that she has been saying 'I only wanted to spend time with my family'...to which I replied you did spend time with your family and you can spend time with your family, just not sleep there....WE got up at 630am on Saturday mornign so you could spend time with yoru family, Wizard drove you to your family so that you could be there the maximum amount of time and you and your family didn't have the respect for us or our rules to do the same....and now there are consequences. I got on the phoen with my mom, explained to her exactly what I said to TinMan and then I told her he needed to be home by noon.
This morning I get a call from her telling me that my Step-Dad will be bringing him home and they'll be leaving at noon...if he is not home by 1pm, I'm leaving work and going to get him. I told her that last night she agreed he'd be home by noon and that this was the FOURTH time she lied to me in 3 days, that I know now that I can not trust her and I know what I have to do, that I felt like she was the child and I am the parent....that I gave her an inch and she took 10 miles....and then I told her goodbye and hung up.
I'm at my wits end, I slept little last ngith and all I can think about right now is if TinMan will actually be home or if I'll have to go get him, which I don't want to do, I don't want to make him feel like he has to choose because in my eyes he shouldn't have to and I will not force him to....but at the same time he's my son, these are my rules and they will be obeyed by all or we won't be playing in the sandbox together any longer.
Women, what makes us think that we always know more than everyone else, more than our moms, friends, grandma's, friends; not sure why but we always think we know more than the 'average bear' and I'm just as guilty as everyone else.....my rant today is about my mother, who in my eyes died yesterday, no condolences please as its my choice that she is dead to me. Background....before Thanksgiving TinMan brought home a less than stellar report card by our (mine and Wizards) standards so given he hasn't made a ton of friends in our area yet we took away the one thing we'd know get to through to him...spending the night with granny (my mom) since then I have broken my own rule SIX times and I'm still being accused by my mother, brother and now my son of keeping him from his family. My son didn't start studying for his exams utnil a week before the tests, that might be ok if he had been working off and on throughout the semester but he hasn't so we have to treat him like he's 10, study with him, force him to do his work and as of last week I finally thought he was getting it, he seemed to be a little more independent about his work, etc I was so proud, so excited and happy for him. He's enjoying Lacrosse and had a blast at the agility class we enrolled him, the LAX coach loves him and has said that he's doing well and developing quickly....so FINALLY we have something that really clicks with him :) So, my rule about going to my moms was that he could go spend the day and come home, no spending the night...you know give him a taste and then let him see that if he continues to work that he'll get the other half which is spend the night. I've had several fights with my mother about this and she just thinks that I'm trying to keep him from her, so not the case in fact this past saturday Wizard got up at 630am and took TinMan to HER drove him an hour to HER so he could spend as much time as possible with HER and she never said thank you....instead she didn't bring him home when she was supposed to on Saturday night, she called at 9pm and asked if he could stay....now, I had a house full of women, I had a jewelry party and I had 20 women in my house and was not about to have the conversation with my mom again especially knowing how upset I get and I can literally lose it...so i said fine, she said he would be home tomorrow (Sunday) evening. Fine, I'm beside myself with anger, and hurt and felt lied to by her and by TiMan. I forgot to mention that my 13 yr old brother called me earlier in the day and asked if TinMan could spend the night, I said no and he asked why and for whatever reason I actually tried to justify it to him...I know, I dont' have to but, I digress....he actually said to me 'so his punishment is keeping him from his family'; then he hung up on me.....he hung up on me! At that point I had people starting to arrive at my home and had to let it go.
Fast forward to last night (Saturday), I called around 4pm to find out if TinMan would be home in time for dinner, my mom said no that she would make him dinner and they would be home after, well....8pm comes and goes, I call ask where she is and she tells me she just got out of the shower. I was like WTF you said he'd be home by 8pm, I went into a rant and a rage that I've never gone into before, I told her that I was sick and tired of her BS that I was tired of her trying to always control me, that I've put up with her BS all my life and I wasn't doing it anymore and she wasn't going to do it to my son....I continued to yell and the last thing I said was F you, you bipolar cunt.....and I hung up. I was so angry, so upset that I had 1. been lied to and 2. she AGAIN did not respect my wishes and is showing my son that its ok....I lost my cool. About 10 mins later I called back, calmly apologized for saying mean things out of anger and went on the tell her that this wasn't about her and I and it wasn't about our relationship that it was and is about TinMan and the person we are molding him to become and that if she lies to me, disrespects my rules then she's showing him that he doesn't have to have respect for me or be truthful with me, I also told her that he needed grow and learn and that I'm trying my best to do that for him and that from the time he was born until this very moment he has been my first priority that he lived with her until high school because its what I felt was best for him, because he deserved better than I could give...if I were truly selfish I would've kept my child with me and he could've expereinced all the boyfriends, partying and me growing up...but that's not fair to him....just like its not fair to him that she's not obeying my rules and that she's not respecting my boundaries...she's being selfish. So after that conversation she said she was bringing him home it was about 9pm, so at 10:15pm I called again to find out where they are....they hadn't left yet, my instinct told me to get in my car and go get my son...I didn't, I was emotionally exhausted and just didn't want a scene and didn't want to deal with her....at 11:30pm I called again asked where they were...she said they weren't coming....I laughed....asked what had changed between my last phone call and now, she said TinMan didn't want to come home. SERIOUSLY, I asked...when the 15 yr old started calling the shots and making the decisions and that as a parent/grandparent we weren't there to be friends, we are there to mold and teach and sometimes that sucks and its not fun and we have to make choices for them that make them sad or mad. she didn't get it so I talked to TinMan, I explained to him that there were conseuquences for his behavior...in my eyes at 15 he should have the character to say 'no, my mom said' but he didn't, instead he saw video games, and playing with friends.....he saw irresponsibility and fun. So he will now be writing a 500 word essay about respect, what it means, how to earn it, how to give it and what it means in a family, he'll be reading 2 hours on weekends and any day he doesn't have school and an hour every weekday....and now he's definitely not going to her house and only because he said something that she has been saying 'I only wanted to spend time with my family'...to which I replied you did spend time with your family and you can spend time with your family, just not sleep there....WE got up at 630am on Saturday mornign so you could spend time with yoru family, Wizard drove you to your family so that you could be there the maximum amount of time and you and your family didn't have the respect for us or our rules to do the same....and now there are consequences. I got on the phoen with my mom, explained to her exactly what I said to TinMan and then I told her he needed to be home by noon.
This morning I get a call from her telling me that my Step-Dad will be bringing him home and they'll be leaving at noon...if he is not home by 1pm, I'm leaving work and going to get him. I told her that last night she agreed he'd be home by noon and that this was the FOURTH time she lied to me in 3 days, that I know now that I can not trust her and I know what I have to do, that I felt like she was the child and I am the parent....that I gave her an inch and she took 10 miles....and then I told her goodbye and hung up.
I'm at my wits end, I slept little last ngith and all I can think about right now is if TinMan will actually be home or if I'll have to go get him, which I don't want to do, I don't want to make him feel like he has to choose because in my eyes he shouldn't have to and I will not force him to....but at the same time he's my son, these are my rules and they will be obeyed by all or we won't be playing in the sandbox together any longer.
Friday, January 18, 2008
meeting the kids part 1
I'm going with a short version because to go with the long verision is to add more negative energy to it than I want....My day started out slow, i was a little groggy but worked up to being awake and then started feeling really good, really accomplished at work, had a positive meeting with my boss where I learned some the things that I could be doing better and things that I'm doing well and that I'll have a dual role by summer as Admin/Creative Coordinator....woo hoo! Glad that they can see my potential quickly. Before that meeting I had received and email from Wizard asking if I wanted to meet Lion and Munchkin tonight....ummm of course, so we set the time and place and off to my meeting I went...oh and another before was that we found out Witch's b/f's name so of course I googled him and did a property search and well...was basically a high schooler, LOL While I was in my meeting Wizard sent an email to Witch and BCC'd Cougar, his Sisinlaw and I....since Cougar uses gmail she didn't realize it was a BCC rather than a FWD and we'd been replying to all most of the AM so she replied to all again...INCLUDING Witch....It wasn't too bad she said somethng about Witch being nuts...and her not spelling my name right; overall nothing too harmful; well Witch let her have it...I'll post later for you reading enjoyment....meanwhile I'm still in my meeting oblivious to what's going on....I come out and tell Cougar what a great meeting it was and the poor thing looked like I ran over her dog...she hated to tell me what happened because we both knew that Witch would throw a fit (which she did) and prevent me from meeting the kids tonight (which she did). It sucks yes but what sucks more is that we allow this woman to upset us the way she does....I'm making a decision today that what she thinks and does has no bearing on ME, my thoughts and feelings...I'm taking repsonsibility for ALL of those....so now she no longer has the power. I expect the best out of her...what the best is I have no idea but damn it I expect it.
Originally I had planned to go to happy hour with friends from work for a co-workers bday so I did that and had a great time just talking and enjoying the people that I work with...another great part of my job :)
Tomorrow is Friday and I'm so looking forward to the weekend...can't wait to sleep in and spend some time with TinMan, I miss him :) On another up side, i'm feeling more like me, not so much like a blob in the sense of just oozing through the day....I feel connected again and that feels good.
Five good things about Witch....she knows what she wants, she is dating, she has a few friends, she's open to talking to a 'doctor', she finally takes her medication every day; I knew I could find at least five.
Originally I had planned to go to happy hour with friends from work for a co-workers bday so I did that and had a great time just talking and enjoying the people that I work with...another great part of my job :)
Tomorrow is Friday and I'm so looking forward to the weekend...can't wait to sleep in and spend some time with TinMan, I miss him :) On another up side, i'm feeling more like me, not so much like a blob in the sense of just oozing through the day....I feel connected again and that feels good.
Five good things about Witch....she knows what she wants, she is dating, she has a few friends, she's open to talking to a 'doctor', she finally takes her medication every day; I knew I could find at least five.
Tuesday, January 8, 2008
special Witch
So special that I can't stand it. Here's the scene....Lion wants new iPod Nano Video, child already has iPod Nano that she got for her bday just over a year ago, BOTH parents agree that Lion will not be getting iPod for Christmas. TinMan gets iPod Nano Video from his grandma. Children go to their mothers, Scarecrow's sister gets iPod Nano Video....child gets Wii and several other gifts but no iPod....child spends FOUR hours on Christmas day crying (REAL TEARS) about NOT getting iPod for Christmas. Lion comes back to our house, treats Scarecrow meanly in the car because she wanted the ipod and her sister got it, Lion pouts off and on part of the day. Lion gets 'better' as the week goes on and enjoys her other gifts. Lion goes back to Witches, Witch has taken back TWO gifts because said Lion got them at our house and tries justify to Wizard that it was ok to go buy Lion the ipod nano video with returned gift money because Wizard said that Lion could buy it with HER money....Witch twists that to mean 'return gifts, buy nano for Lion....thus showing her that crying for FOUR hours on christmas day ='s getting what you want....and trust me she ALWAYS gets what she wants....begged Witch for a puppy for 3 months until she finally gave in, got the puppy in July...said puppy now lives at the Humane Society because Witch couldn't handle its 'puppiness' or clothing...all the clothing she wants...from June until November when she got her last WebKinz.....she had 27....at $12/each.
Now what is so beautiful about this whole situation is there are two daughters; one is alot like her mom...NEEDS everything, the other is more down to earth and a little more cautious when it comes to people, the latter daughter got the ipod nano for Christmas it was her 'big' gift and it was also the FIRST time in her 7 years that she had something her sister didn't have 'first'....if you're not an only child (like me...my brother is 13...he counts but doesn't) you understand the importance of having something all your own....this was her turn but Witch ruined it and didn't give it a thought...didn't even think that she was teaching her daughter that if you bug, beg and cry long enough eventually it will be yours...nope not at all......what's even better I think about this whole thing is...I think Witch did it not only to give Lion what she wanted but...to also get Wizard's attention. She hasn't had a good tongue lashing or argument with him in a few weeks and Witch likes his attention, she thinks that until he and I are married there's still a chance that it won't happen and they can go back to their 'happy' divorced lives.....just how special is she?
Now what is so beautiful about this whole situation is there are two daughters; one is alot like her mom...NEEDS everything, the other is more down to earth and a little more cautious when it comes to people, the latter daughter got the ipod nano for Christmas it was her 'big' gift and it was also the FIRST time in her 7 years that she had something her sister didn't have 'first'....if you're not an only child (like me...my brother is 13...he counts but doesn't) you understand the importance of having something all your own....this was her turn but Witch ruined it and didn't give it a thought...didn't even think that she was teaching her daughter that if you bug, beg and cry long enough eventually it will be yours...nope not at all......what's even better I think about this whole thing is...I think Witch did it not only to give Lion what she wanted but...to also get Wizard's attention. She hasn't had a good tongue lashing or argument with him in a few weeks and Witch likes his attention, she thinks that until he and I are married there's still a chance that it won't happen and they can go back to their 'happy' divorced lives.....just how special is she?
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