Two Sets of Rules

I slept on the couch last night, didn't attempt to sleep in HIS bed as he put it and oddly I was very comfortable. Journaling last night and sleep gave me some perspective. I remember how I felt when Wizard called Tin Man lazy, liar, etc and I reacted much the same way he did last night. Not acceptable but I get it; I 'attacked' his daughter, I'm not apologizing here because my issue with this situation is that there are TWO sets of rules in the this house, one for Tin Man, anytime he does any little thing he's punished BIG and if I don't punish BIG I'm considered a softy and in Wizard's words "Tin Man will never learn" and then there's his kids, like I said last night Lion has lied to all the adults in our 'family', Witch, me, Wizard and Glenda and I don't recall her being punished ONCE, let alone forced to apologize for it....the other piece is, she lies about stupid stuff but stuff that affects others and could get others in trouble, for example (not that you need an example but I need to journal it out) she said that two boys on the bus made a sexual comment to her, the made a V with their fingers and stuck their tongue through it; we freaked out, we wanted to know who was doing this on an elementary school bus so we could talk to their parents ASAP, through the course of talking to her she revealed that no one had done that TO her but she'd seen it and that she wanted to know what it meant but thought she'd get in trouble if she asked; was she punished for lying and almost getting two INNOCENT boys in trouble, NO; she was talked to, calmly talked to....two sets of rules.
Wizard and Lion just left he woke me up and told me I should go upstairs to bed, I ignored him, then he asked me if I wanted coffee, I said no thank you, then he apologized like this....I'm sorry for last night but you never follow through with punishing him, sure you told him that he couldn't go to his grandma's but you let him have a friend over and you let him go watch a movie somewhere, you never follow through, you always ask my opinion but never follow it. I replied simply we have two separate sets of rules in this house. he said something about his kids were fine, that they get good grades....I stopped him there and said you're creating habits that will carry through to adulthood and you're going to make those teenage years hell, he said that those years wouldn't be hell because he would bust ass..LMAO He has no clue, if Lion is manipulating now the moment he lays a hand on her or punishes her she'll cry to mommy and she'll get children's services involved....where do you think Ry gets it?! So I made that point and he said something about me not worrying about them that I had BIGGER problems, LMAO Yep, my biggest issue is an F and my kid doesn’t' like to study....he's 16 and if those are my biggest issues I'll take them, he'd rather hang out with his youth group friends than some of the jock friends that I'm not a huge fan of....yep I have big problems. He's the one who listens when I talk, sure he argues but no more than any other 16 year old; the other kids well they argue often about most things from chores to sleepovers and Lion treats Glenda like crap and at one point last fall (can't remember if I journaled that out or not) almost had Glenda to the point of quitting; why? Because Lion was LYING LYING LYING and she got NO punishment, instead a meeting between Glenda, Wizard, Witch and Lion...nice....you lie you get more attention....its really frustrating and again why I think counseling is the ONLY option.
I really want the rest of the weekend to be peaceful, I want to have fun with the kids, all of them and just enjoy our time. My differences with Wizard shouldn't affect them but lately I've let those differences get in the way and I'd like that to stop.
I'm going to try and go back to sleep...woo hoo!