When Witch tried to be nice...

----- Original Message -----
From: Witch
To: Wizard
Sent: Tue Jan 30 11:03:09 2007
Subject: Hello!

Wizard,
I have been doing a lot of thinking over the last week, really since you went off on me about what a horrible mother I am and everything else. I want you to know that at the end of the day all I want is for us to live our lives, find happiness and take care of our children the best way we possible can. I don't want animosity, hurt, games or holding on to the past to get in the way of that…it has always been our priority since we had children and we need that to continue to be the case. I think we have done a really fine job at making sure our children are well. I think we can further that by letting go of the anger, the bad feelings and mistakes of our past. We have both moved on in a direction that is for the better. You have found happiness with Dorothy and I too am happy in my life for the first time in a very long, long time.

I have always said and it is still true today that I will always love you because you are the father of my children, but that I am not in love with you…big difference and one that I want to embrace. You are a part of my life and I care about you and only want good things to happen for you. I know that I probably haven't been overly supportive, well that's an understatement, of your relationship with Dorothy, and I apologize for that. I was allowing the fact that she came into your life and you allowed it to happen at a time that we were still married. As you know that was rough for me…then when you lied for so long and played games and tried to get my friends to make me believe something that wasn't true it just made those feelings even stronger. I am letting go of all of those negative feelings as I don't need them, you don't need them and our children don't need them. It is the past and that is where it should stay.

I want you to have all the happiness you can. I want Dorothy to be our partner (on the same page with our wants, discipline, etc.) with the children. I do not want her to feel like an outsider looking in. I know she will never be there Mom and that you and I will always be the primary and final decision makers, but eventual if she is an everyday part of their life as their step-mother she will be an important ingredient in raising our children and I want that to be a relationship that can nourish and enrich their lives for all that she will bring to the table.
I just want to bring closure to all the bad….embrace the good that we have managed to have since our divorce and move on in our lives supporting each other as parents, our children and the new directions our lives are taking.

So, I am sorry for whatever unhappiness, anger and hurt I have caused you and Dorothy…I really do hope that you will both be very happy….when it comes a long which it doesn't very often in a lifetime, we should embrace it and cherish it…..