I must bitch

...what else is new, right?


Ok, my husband will be 40 this year and I'm planning a surprise party...mark your calendars for December 12, 2009. So, I email his parents, invite them even though I HATE his mother, she's a bipolar nutcase just like her daughter (details to follow); so I put myself out there even though this women didn't come to our wedding (she was mad at Wizard for telling his sister that their brother did nothing but talk shit about her)....she claims that's the reason she didn't come to our wedding...anyway, her answer about coming to Wizard's party....we'll see?! We'll see! I didn't share this with Wizard until I found out that she sent Scarecrow's birthday card (March 23 bday) to WITCH'S house?! WITCH'S...she didn't send it a few days early or even just send it to our house, HER son's home, NO, she sent it to the EX-wife that she hadn't talked to in FIVE FUCKING years until they got divorced!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! See my irritation? UGH! Not only that but Wizard and his family didn't have a relationship until last fall when I encouraged it after his grandmother died.....I encouraged him to reach out to his family, I reminded him that family was important and that I would be nothing without my crazy, annoying, hillbilly family and I really thought he should be with his family and they should be a part of his life.....but instead his mom and sister and brother's wife (more details to follow) all have sided with Witch...why, I have no idea other than Witch and the rest of them seem to think that Wizard is some controlling, anal, freak who is mean, etc. Now I know that my husband can be a bit over the top and he's pissed me off more than once and I've said mean things in my blogs/journals BUT he's really a GREAT guy, otherwise I wouldn't be married to him and wouldn't have my son as a part of his life.

Ok and not only have the sided with Witch against their own son...well not 'them' cause Wizard's dad didn't want Wizard to marry Witch in the first place, thought she was bad for him; little did he know just how bad. I could go into all the details and reasons why they're divorced but I won't...I'm trying to let some of that negativity go....but this stuff I'm really struggling with....His sister, sister-in-law and mom are all friends on Facebook...not with me, oh no, I'm just the homewrecker whore...they're friends with poor little innocent Witch, who has no idea why Wizard ever left her...of course it can't be her fault...no, it has to be the homewrecker, whores fault, right?!

Even I'm big enough to admit that when I got divorced that it was a JOINT venture...he didn't do everything wrong and neither did I, period. Are there things that I could've blamed him for, HELL YES and vice versa but we didn't play that game...but Witch, Oh Witch, she plays the sympathy card all the way to the bank and I'm so over it, so over being the 'bad guy', Wizard being the 'bad guy', it just pisses me off even though I know in my heart we're not the 'bad guys'. UGH

I'm sure there were great parts of their marriage, there were great parts of my first marriage but it ended and it's been THREE years....it's time to let go and move the fuck on....she still has their champagne glasses (the silver ones that look like a heart when put together) displayed in her new house!!!!!!! How creepy is that?! Also painted her house the same color as ours...she had family pictures taken AFTER she found out we were having them taken and get this...the colors she chose for them to wear...brown and cream...the colors we chose for us to wear cream and red.....so weird, so creepy, but that's not even the best part....they haven't had a family picture taken EVER, EVER....so why the spontaneous want for a family picture after 13 years of no family pictures? Me, I'm her worst nightmare, I do crafty things, paint things on my own, I have my own style, didn't hire a decorator to pick the colors for my rooms and then let me choose the shade I like best, I don't go shopping for 8 hours on Saturdays, I don't bitch non-stop, I don't have to have a brand new car every 1.5 years....because I'm a much better woman, mother and wife than she'll ever be....even if I don't always feel that way or see it that way, deep down buried within the negativity of my pissed offness (sp)....well now that I've got all that out...I'm going to try and pretend to work.