Are you my mommy?

Ok...so I should have lots of really nice things to say since its only Monday, right?! Well..I do and I don't, first Happy Be-lated Easter (if you celebrate) and I hope you enjoyed time with your families. We went to a friends and spent most of the day but had a really good time. The Oz children got there about 3pm, I think. They all had fun.

Today's story centers around a bad step-mom moment that I need to get out so I can 'let it go'. It's stupid but then again it's not. Last night we were getting things ready for the week, it's going to be weird one, the Oz kids are at our house for two days then they go back to Witches for three days and then back to our house for the weekend, Wizard is traveling for work and has to offer her the kids if he's going to be gone more than four hours. Do I think she really wants them back..no, but she would NEVER let them stay with me..I'm not their MOTHER or a PARENT, just ask her.

So...I'm having the Oz girls get their things ready for the week and upcoming weekend, they both have a tournament this weekend so as I'm doing this Munchkin is all over me to pitch to him, I explain that I'll pitch when I'm done. I get done with the girls and need to move on to Munchkin...he has clothes that need to be tried on so I have him try on the clothes and am separting what fits and what doesn't and he asks me why I'm always so busy, I tell him because I'm a mom. He gets MAD, tells me that I'm not HIS mom, he only has ONE mom, etc. Now if you've read blogs of the past this probably came up about the two mommy thing...if I haven't written about it I'll explain in a few. Basically I tell him that I'm not his mom, that I'm TinMan's mom. He goes on to tell me I'm Dorothy, not Dorothy mommy and that he wants me to be Dorothy; which is VERY interesting considering the last week they were home he was calling me mom, and mommy and I was the one correcting him. Anyway, his reaction seriously hurt my feelings, I wasn't mad at him and I know that Witch is the one telling him these things but it still hurt and I left the room. I definitely didn't want a 3 yr old to see me cry...so I went to do laundry, Wizard came in, I explain what happened and proceeded to unleash hell on him....poor man. I was yelling at him telling him that she (Witch) should feel lucky that they have someone like me, who will cook, manage schedules, do laundry, make sure they're safe, loved, taught morals, taught how to have friends (good friends) and a few other things but I was yelling and crying and asking him at what point what she going to realize how lucky she is?! Never, that's when; she'll never see it as I do, that they're lucky to have both of us, I don't like her but she's their mom, period and they love her so that has to mean something; if not to me, it does to them. She just doesn't get it and friends have said that maybe she's worried that I'm fulfilling the role of 'mother' and she's fulfilling the role of 'friend' since she rarely disciplines and almost always gives in or just lets it slide whatever 'it' is...who knows but I just would like this meaness to stop, I don't brainwash Munchkin into believe that I'm his mom or that he has two moms....but the fact is he DOES have two moms a mom and a step-MOM.

All the two moms bs starts sometime about a year ago; Munchkin and I were home alone and he had just come home from Witch's house and he started asking me why he was at our house, I explained that it was our time (Daddy and Dorothy) with him and he asked if I were his mom....now he's 3, how do I explain step-mom to a 3 yr old? I did my best and I said well...I'm Dorothy mom, you have a mom but I'm Dorothy mom...that satisfied him and that's the last I heard about it....maybe I handled it wrong, I don't know...I did my best and wasn't trying to be mean or take anyone's place, I jsut did my best. So, FF to about 4 months down the road and Munchkin is at Witch's house and says to her (Glenda witnesses that's how I know this) I have two mommy's; I have Mommy and Dorothy Mommy. Glenda said that Witch's face turned livid, that she was so mad that she told him NO, you don't have two mommy's you have ONE mommy, I'm your mommy, Dorothy is just Dorothy. She must've said it over and over to him the whole week because when he came home the next week he told me that mommy told him that I was just Dorothy, I said ok and he questioned me a couple of times if I was Dorothy or Dorothy mommy and I told him I was whoever he wanted me to be, if he wanted me to be Dorothy I would be Dorothy and he said no, I want you to be Dorothy mommy, I was like ok then that's what I am. So that was back in Oct/Nov 2008, it happened off and on where he would question me as to 'who' I was and I would tell him whoever he wanted me to be and some days it would be Dorothy and others it would be Dorothy mommy but never had he told me that I was not his mom the way he did last night. Which tells me that Witch didn't let it go as easily as I did and that off and on she must be asking or something and reminding him of who I am....how sick is that?! Am I wrong to think that's sick or mean to the child? I don't want him to think I'm his mom but I do deserve respect and credit for being a parental figure in their lives, I do and give a lot to those children, as much as I do my own son so she needs to step back a lot or I'm going to step up.....